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In Quest of Compatibility: The Aspects that Truly Matter

In Quest of Compatibility: The Aspects that Truly Matter

written by Shreeradha Mishra

You want to go out and party on a Friday night, but he’d rather stay in and watch a movie.
You like speaking about what bothers you, but she likes to keep it to herself.
You believe in being a vegan, he loves a good steak.
So how do these differences affect your compatibility with each other?

How successful a relationship is, is directly proportional to how compatible the two people in the relationship are, with each other. And of course, this is no secret. While we all seek compatibility with our partners, how do we really understand what true compatibility is? It’s easy. To be able to measure compatibility, psychologists have broken it down into six specific areas. These areas capture the all-round personality traits of any individual. So, if you are wondering how to gauge if you an your Significant Other are compatible, here are the six aspects you should consider.

  1. Emotional Temperament

    This dimension of an individual’s personality is reflective of how they perceive themselves, their emotional status and energy, and how passionate they are when it comes to nurturing romantic relationships. For example, if you can characterize someone as a happy person, who is self-confident and sensitive, that would be their emotional temperament you are referring to.

  2. Social Style

    While emotional temperament has got to do more with an individual’s intimate personality traits, social style dictates how the person behaves outside of his/ her comfort zone. Traits such as character, kindness, dominance, sociability and adaptability define an individual’s social style. Appreciate it when he is kind to a waiter who accidentally spilled a bit of water? Well, that’s his social style.

  3. Cognitive Mode

    This is one of the most difficult dimensions to find compatibility in. A lot of times we hear people say, “it didn’t work out because we had very little in common – there was not much that we could really speak about or do together.” The cognitive mode of an individual captures their intellect, curiosity, humor and artistic passion. Compatibility in this particular aspect, can be truly fulfilling because you and your partner will never run out of things to speak about, and do together.

  4. Physicality

    Physicality includes not just the degree of sexual intimacy an individual enjoys, but also a wide range of other physical factors which contribute to overall compatibility. For example, how physically active or passive one is – do you or your partner enjoy recreational activities which involve physical effort, such as trekking? Are you someone who likes to stay physically fit and active by eating healthy food and exercising regularly? Does the idea of being on the move excite you or stress you out? All these factors contribute to the physicality of an individual.

  5. Relationship skills

    How do you resolve a fight? By talking it out, or by shouting it out? How moody are you? If something unrelated to your partner is affecting you, do you manage it on your own or do you let it spill on your partner? Do you let a conflict escalate by being passive aggressive, or do you clear the air as soon as there seems to be a misunderstanding? All of this speaks about the relationship skills of an individual.

  6. Values and beliefs

    How religious or spiritual a person is, what his ambition in life is, what his personal values and family goals are, all of these fall under the values and beliefs aspect of compatibility. While seeking a partner, some of these aspects could be a prerequisite for many people. For example, one might only want to be with someone who shares their religion, or with someone with whom their value system matches.

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4 most common mistakes women make with profile pictures online.

4 most common mistakes women make with profile pictures online.

written by Aakanksha Sadekar

One of the most common problems with online profile pictures: you show up to finally meet that new person and they look different than they did in their profile photos. If you’re the person using photos that don’t truly represent what you look like now, what does it say about you?

We have noticed these 4 common mistakes women make with online profile pictures:

1. People do really judge a book by its cover:

You’re almost set to explore the world of marriage and in an ideal world all women want to be carefully chosen as the most suitable one by men and then suddenly you realize most of your recent pictures are selfies or you struggling to peep in through a bunch of other faces or even worse, a blurry and tainted photograph! Having no luck in getting a decent man to message you? Is your inbox looking empty? Ever contemplated as to why? We hate to admit it, but it may be the profile you’ve created has a lot of glitches or maybe you’ve been in a relationship for as long as a decade that you never felt the importance to master the art of building a matrimonial site.  

2. No second chances on making a first impression:

That being said, if you’re wearing sunglasses with a shabby backdrop or say half of your face is covered by your pet dog ‘Snowy’, or your back is towards the camera while you’re admiring the beauty of the setting sun- all these clearly imply that you’re hinting men about how you run low on your self-esteem. You’d not ideally want the first emotion he feels when he sees you in person to turn out to be a disappointment. Isn’t it?

An image that reflects your actual personality is highly recommendable. One would likely want to see the whole of you. Regardless of how big an introvert or extrovert you are, be sure that your pictures are reflective of you and your real-world interests.

3. No playing ‘Guess who’ game:

Do you want the very first question to be ‘Which one would you be?’ in a picture that has ten other people. Your inner voice screeching ‘Look at me, I’m social’. I am sure you look great in your fashion show photograph and ideally you’d like him to investigate further in your profile to gradually reveal the fascinating layered mystery box that you are, but note it; he’s not going past your first photograph and he’s not out there to marry the rest of them!

Don’t be hesitant. Allow people to perceive your actual self. Put your confident self forward.

4. Looks can be deceptive:

‘Lark? Reyes? or Willow?’, in a world of Instagram that offers us with so many filter options, one would like to be familiar with in order to learn about it. Enhanced photographs are enticing, but it doesn’t weigh up your persona. Of course, they’re making snap judgments about you based solely on your profile photo. That grainy, low-resolution photo you uploaded from other social media platforms isn’t doing you any favours and if you even think about posting a photo from five years ago, then my lady give your husband search journey a break!

It might backfire if it diverges too much from the reality. So, post a picture without the use of any filters and be brave enough to tell the world how beautiful you naturally are!

5 great questions to ask on your first meeting.

5 great questions to ask on your first meeting.

written by Aakanksha Sadekar

What’s more nerve-wracking than a first meeting, especially with someone you barely know. And while firsts are always considered to be a precursor to an actual relationship that will further mature into something more serious. Initial meetings are also almost an interview disguised as a social outing.

The first meeting with your prospective match is likely to happen in a coffee shop or a restaurant. That’s why figuring out what to talk about the way ahead of time with a list of effective questions and conversation starters are very important.

The trick to successfully anticipate the prospect of the very first encounter is to figure out what questions to be asked and how to approach the same.

  1. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

Some of us will come up with trivial responses but there is always a possibility that you may uncover something profound. There could be new dimensions to your future partner’s life that was never shared through the profile.

2. How much does love and affection matter to you?

This question is fairly straightforward. It is meant to gauge the fact how love and affection have moulded someone’s life. If the person answering this question had a strenuous childhood and a disturbed family life, there could be serious issues to look out for. That will further notify as to how important family bonds are to that concerned person.

3. If you’re made to stand in front of the Oracle, and it has the ability to successfully predict yourself, your future or anything else for that matter, what would you want to know?

A sincere question to dive into one’s deepest anxieties and yearnings. Not many would feel comfortable at the first go to open up, but it is always good to try your luck out!

4. Is there anything close to your heart that you have been longing to do, but couldn’t?

Not all of us do what we enjoy doing and get paid for it! Some of us have unfulfilled dreams and this question is a gateway to finding out what your future partner is really interested in. Response to this question will further help you to perceive about the other person; whether he or she is okay with a simple life or an ambitious one.

5. What are you looking for in your ideal match?

This is how you will find out if the partner you are yet to decide upon is suitable for you or not. Steer clear of topics can bring in more clarity which will be of great aid in every kind of decision-making process.