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Busting the Myths Associated with AI Matchmaking

A decade ago, the idea that one could find a life partner through technology fueled by Artificial Intelligence would have sounded like the plot of a gripping science fiction movie.

Today, it is a reality. AI has been pushing the boundaries for development in several spheres, and guess what? Matchmaking is one of them. Matrimony and partner search can be made extremely seamless and efficient with the help of AI. However, everything that is new and evolving comes with its share of myths and doubts. And if you are someone who is against AI matchmaking for any of these myths, maybe you should give this post a read, and AI another chance.

Do you echo any of these thoughts?

1. “It is a de-humanized approach for an inherently humane process”

True that the platform is fueled by technology, but that doesn’t render the process as a dehumanized one, rather, one can say it is a filtered approach. Based on iterative probabilistic update learning, Betterhalf AI Engine only tries to understand what your preferences are in terms of a partner, to try and connect you with like-minded and compatible people. From there on, how you steer the process is up to you. AI as a process simply quickens the pace and the likelihood of you finding a compatible partner.

2. “Only desperate people would opt for AI while looking for partners”

As a society, it is true that alternative methods of looking for a partner have largely been frowned upon. This myth largely stems from the fact that people view AI based matchmaking as something that does not fall in the ambit of “normal”. While we have edged closer to exploring new avenues of meeting partners (the sudden explosion of numerous e-dating platforms), the stigma that people use these platforms out of desperation persists. However, that is not the case with AI matchmaking. Based on your inputs, AI curates a very specific set of matches for you, therefore reducing unpredictability of the negative kind.

3. “I will not have control over the process of searching for a partner”

Wrong – because you are the only one who will have control over it. AI as a technology will first spend time understanding your likes and dislikes, and preferences and scan through thousands of potential matches before giving you a small set of matches that are most compatible with you. Post that, you control how you want to take your connection forward. Right from the beginning till the end of the process, you stay in charge. What AI simply does is, reduce the randomness. Therefore – win-win!

Now that we have de-bunked some of the myths relating to AI matchmaking, we are excited to open a new world of possibilities for you. Haven’t met ‘the one’ you’ve been waiting on, yet? Maybe it’s time for you to try Betterhalf.ai. We are India’s first AI powered life partner search experience for professionals like you. With a six-dimensional personality profile approach, we take a deep dive into your personality to understand the ‘real you’ and curate hand-picked profiles you will love.

The Real Reason Why I’m Choosing To Stay Single Today And Maybe Forever!

written by Nida Aziz

Finding love in 2018 is still a play of luck. You need to get lucky and certainly not just for a night. I am generally a positive person, but trying to find love for years now has made me a cynic when now when it comes to this subject. I know there are couples out there that make us believe in happily-ever-afters. However, there are also higher divorce rates that make us repel this idea of falling for someone.

Commitment issues were non-existent a couple of decades ago, probably because they didn’t have the option of meeting genuine humans at the touch of a button. Back then, they needed wingmen/women to find decent dates for each other, and today here we are, swiping left and right all too fast to really care. It makes one wonder, have we lost our innocence or sincerity along the way?

I say I want to focus on my career, which is why I am not ready for a relationship right now. People assume I am saying this to make myself feel better, or that I am delusional. They are right, I can manage my work and relationship together. The right relationship would add value to my life, not take away from it. But that’s not half the truth. Truth also is that I am not ready for the kind of relationships that are the norm today. It requires a ridiculous investment of time, energy, and focus.

I really don’t have it in me to play flirtatious with one guy for a month, then chase him in the second month, and wonder what made the fizz go sour, in the third, and then spend the next two months wondering what went wrong. Unfortunately, it’s a never-ending cycle.

If you’re telling me that this mindless play will not affect my focus at work, then let me tell you that I am an all or nothing person, so it does unfortunately affect my work.

I do not merely go on a date with someone to have a great night. I go on dates with the intention to give love a chance.

But it seems like everybody is too occupied with giving each other chances. Chances are great, but isn’t making a choice greater?

Dating in India may have evolved, but cultural acceptance hasn’t. It is 2018 but we still need to filter our prospects by religion, casts, cultural differences etc. Forget winning over gender differences, we haven’t even resolved our basic differences. According to popular belief, matters of the heart are beyond our control. Even though, essentially, the heart is too preoccupied with running the smooth functioning of our bodies to manage any more tasks.

Science says that love is simply a chemical addiction kindled by jumpy hormones and neurotransmitters. The point I am trying to make here is that, even if you happen to find an amazing person and fall in love with them, neurotransmitters rarely get charged up for ships that are safe in their harbor. What if your cultural criteria differs? Many people give up on love, because of these petty issues, even today.

Romeo and Juliet may have belonged to the Shakespearean era, but India didn’t treat Laila Majnu and Sohni Mahiwaal too well either. Unfortunately, hate still wins over love, differences still win over acceptance. People move on, but it is no less heartbreaking today, than it was then.

Love happens, they say, or so we’ve been taught by Bollywood. In my opinion, I believe we meet people of different types in our lives but how do we find love without having to settle for patriachy, mindless games is still a question!

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4 most common mistakes women make with profile pictures online.

written by Aakanksha Sadekar

One of the most common problems with online profile pictures: you show up to finally meet that new person and they look different than they did in their profile photos. If you’re the person using photos that don’t truly represent what you look like now, what does it say about you?

We have noticed these 4 common mistakes women make with online profile pictures:

1. People do really judge a book by its cover:

You’re almost set to explore the world of marriage and in an ideal world all women want to be carefully chosen as the most suitable one by men and then suddenly you realize most of your recent pictures are selfies or you struggling to peep in through a bunch of other faces or even worse, a blurry and tainted photograph! Having no luck in getting a decent man to message you? Is your inbox looking empty? Ever contemplated as to why? We hate to admit it, but it may be the profile you’ve created has a lot of glitches or maybe you’ve been in a relationship for as long as a decade that you never felt the importance to master the art of building a matrimonial site.

2. No second chances on making a first impression:

That being said, if you’re wearing sunglasses with a shabby backdrop or say half of your face is covered by your pet dog ‘Snowy’, or your back is towards the camera while you’re admiring the beauty of the setting sun- all these clearly imply that you’re hinting men about how you run low on your self-esteem. You’d not ideally want the first emotion he feels when he sees you in person to turn out to be a disappointment. Isn’t it?

An image that reflects your actual personality is highly recommendable. One would likely want to see the whole of you. Regardless of how big an introvert or extrovert you are, be sure that your pictures are reflective of you and your real-world interests.

3. No playing ‘Guess who’ game:

Do you want the very first question to be ‘Which one would you be?’ in a picture that has ten other people. Your inner voice screeching ‘Look at me, I’m social’. I am sure you look great in your fashion show photograph and ideally you’d like him to investigate further in your profile to gradually reveal the fascinating layered mystery box that you are, but note it; he’s not going past your first photograph and he’s not out there to marry the rest of them!

Don’t be hesitant. Allow people to perceive your actual self. Put your confident self forward.

4. Looks can be deceptive:

‘Lark? Reyes? or Willow?’, in a world of Instagram that offers us with so many filter options, one would like to be familiar with in order to learn about it. Enhanced photographs are enticing, but it doesn’t weigh up your persona. Of course, they’re making snap judgments about you based solely on your profile photo. That grainy, low-resolution photo you uploaded from other social media platforms isn’t doing you any favours and if you even think about posting a photo from five years ago, then my lady give your husband search journey a break!

It might backfire if it diverges too much from the reality. So, post a picture without the use of any filters and be brave enough to tell the world how beautiful you naturally are!

5 great questions to ask on your first meeting.

written by Aakanksha Sadekar

What’s more nerve-wracking than a first meeting, especially with someone you barely know. And while firsts are always considered to be a precursor to an actual relationship that will further mature into something more serious. Initial meetings are also almost an interview disguised as a social outing.

The first meeting with your prospective match is likely to happen in a coffee shop or a restaurant. That’s why figuring out what to talk about the way ahead of time with a list of effective questions and conversation starters are very important.

The trick to successfully anticipate the prospect of the very first encounter is to figure out what questions to be asked and how to approach the same.

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

Some of us will come up with trivial responses but there is always a possibility that you may uncover something profound. There could be new dimensions to your future partner’s life that was never shared through the profile.

2. How much does love and affection matter to you?

This question is fairly straightforward. It is meant to gauge the fact how love and affection have moulded someone’s life. If the person answering this question had a strenuous childhood and a disturbed family life, there could be serious issues to look out for. That will further notify as to how important family bonds are to that concerned person.

3. If you’re made to stand in front of the Oracle, and it has the ability to successfully predict yourself, your future or anything else for that matter, what would you want to know?

A sincere question to dive into one’s deepest anxieties and yearnings. Not many would feel comfortable at the first go to open up, but it is always good to try your luck out!

4. Is there anything close to your heart that you have been longing to do, but couldn’t?

Not all of us do what we enjoy doing and get paid for it! Some of us have unfulfilled dreams and this question is a gateway to finding out what your future partner is really interested in. Response to this question will further help you to perceive about the other person; whether he or she is okay with a simple life or an ambitious one.

5. What are you looking for in your ideal match?

This is how you will find out if the partner you are yet to decide upon is suitable for you or not. Steer clear of topics can bring in more clarity which will be of great aid in every kind of decision-making process.

7 signs which will tell you that he is your Mr. Right

written by Nida Aziz

So you seem to have cracked the code and found the one. But given the rate at which we need instant gratification nowadays, you struggle with a teeny sense of FOMO, and wonder if there is someone else with fewer flaws and more perfection, out there? It is completely natural to have second thoughts because this is one of the biggest decisions of your life, after all.

Here is a checklist that can help you with your life changing evaluation:

Unconditional support: If he is the right one, he will encourage your personal growth, support your dreams and make you realise your true potential. Instead of making you feel like an abla naari or a damsel in distress, he will hold up a mirror and remind you how strong and powerful you can be all by yourself. He will be there for you, because he will want to be there for you, and not because he thinks that you are weak without him.
Powerful communication: It is okay to disagree with each other, but at the end of the day, it is all about respecting each other’s views, and not attacking them. Sometimes, differences create fights too, but as long as there is no form of disrespect involved, it can be managed. Constructive communication is the core foundation of your entire partnership and it should not be compromised with. If he is the right one for you, your rapport with him will feel natural, not forced or planned.
Alignment: A marriage is an alliance. Although you both are two different individuals in your own right, you will have to sail through the waters in one ship for a lifetime. Smooth sailing cannot be ensured when the directions you want to head in, are different. It is essential that your core values, thoughts on life, visions, dreams and goals, are on the same page. If there is something that you want to do and he might not agree to it, later on, talk it out beforehand. Leaving behind practicalities to the last minute is not sensible.
Level of comfort: How comfortable you are with him, speaks volumes about your compatibility. Can you meet him when you’re in your pyjamas without any trace of makeup or vanity? Can you tell him about your past relationships without the fear of being judged? Can you imagine him standing by your side with a smile, and holding your hand while you’re in the labour room? If the answer to these three questions is a yes, yes, and yes, then he’s a keeper for sure!
Effort: In the end, love and marriage are all about giving. Does he ask you to text him when you reach home? If you’ve had a bad day, will he stay up a little longer at night to hear you rant about it? Will he nurse you when you’re ill? Will he plan a special night for you on your birthday? Like they say, a good marriage is built, and not served to you. Without effort, nothing lasts. The effort is literally, everything.
Personality traits: Nobody is perfect, but habits make or break a person. Is he as disciplined as you’d like him to be? Is he respectful and kind? If there are some traits of his that you don’t like, you need to ask yourself if you will be able to live with it forever.
Family oriented: This goes without saying. Does he respect your parents? Will he stand up for his wife whenever needed? Does he want to have children or plan a family? There is nothing wrong with not wanting children though, but as mentioned earlier, alignment is key. Your visions have to align so talk about these things in detail, before the marriage.

If he is indeed your Mr.Right, time will affirm your belief in him, every now and then. If he isn’t, it is always better to be safe than sorry.